Well I don’t know why but I have always hated people who drink or smoke, may be because this is what I have been taught from my childhood. That drinking is a bad habit, so is smoking, that they are bad for health, and they cause you some really deadly diseases. Its not that drinkers and smokers are unaware of the negatives of these. But they say that they’re addicted. Some start drinking at hostels, some others with the company in which they’re in and then there are some who start drinking because they think it’s a status symbol. Some others drink because it’s a part of their work like in business meetings, alcohol is served to all and since all your mates are drinking even you start up as you get an excuse to deal with it. Some say that they drink in a “limit”,. But then if they know that its excess is harmful and they are also upto their senses then why do they drink even, why not control your addiction beyond a “limit”??
Well the above discussion is useless, we know that the people who are addicted cant stop drinking and even smoking if they lack the will power to do so, in fact many of them don’t even want to leave. They say that they forget all their worries and anxieties after drinking, I ask if you really have so much of stress, why don’t you switch over to meditation to get rid of it within minutes??
Meditation has mystic powers, so strong is the impact of meditation that it can de-stress you within the same time span irrespective of the amount of stress or anxiety, and then comes the simple philosophy of being happy. I love those people who live simply and enjoy each and every moment of the life which God has gifted them. There are so many people around me who are happy in all circumstances no matter whatever is going on in their life, and trust me each and every one of us is engaged in some other worry, some are worried about their carrier, some about the education, some about the family problem, some about their spouses, some about the thought whether or not will they find the partner of their choice, some are worried because the cut off so and so place is just a few points higher than what they have been socring, some are worried about the college of their choice, some about their bored exams, some about their call letters, about their low salary package, about the loss in business, about what the boss will say the next day, blah blah…..there are so many worries and anxieties that its impossible to list them all, each person has got his worst.
And then there are a few people who don’t care, they know that it’s a part and parcel of everybody’s life. Life is a journey and there are difficulties, speed breakers, and other problems but at the end of the day, what counts is the courage to move on. You’ll never find such people stressed or crying for what life has done to them rather they will help you out of your small troubles even in the worst times of their lives. They always greet you with a smile and welcoming gesture. These are the people who ask you about your health, about your family members, about how things are moving rather than shifting their anxieties on you.
Benefit of befriending such people is that they are very good decision makers. Their thought process is very simple and plain. Let us suppose a situation where you have to take a very important decision and you are thinking about it day and night unable to reach any conclusion. Ask these “happy go lucky” people about it and they’ll tell you exactly the right thing to do in just a second, without even thinking. Because they know what is right thing to do for long term benefits. I can give you a large number of examples where such people have helped me out of serious troubles, and for them it was just like any other thing.
Now the question arises how to find such people??
One way I told you, they will always ask you about your health and your family members.
The other way is even simpler. They are always happy. You’ll never find them crying in public. They never hesitate in asking for your help if they need it. They ask for help only when they actually need it. And in that case they know that there is no way but to ask for help. They wont burn there energy in thinking whether to ask the other person or not. They don’t have any egos. They will never engage in any sort of gossiping about any person.
Company matters no matter where you are. Most of the times a person is not only identified by what he is, but also by the company he keeps. So avoid people who drink and smoke because there is actually no need of alcohol and smoking to de-stress, you can siply avoid it by meditation and if you are lazy enough to reject that, then you can make friends with the kind of people I have described above.
Thanks for reading this long one. DON’T POST COMMENTS!!:P
